Happy Sunday to everyone!

Daffodils from our yard

Last week, after the podcast episode of Best of Both Worlds where Laura interviewed a university professor, I started thinking about higher ed.

As in, transitioning into working in higher ed. I have a PhD and a few published articles (peer-reviewed) so essentially I *could* apply for a tenure-track position in higher education.

But that sounds very scary. Teach, write, publish, serve to university, serve to profession. I would be essentially starting from scratch. At 45 years old. Plus, higher education seems turbulent, with whole departments being de-funded..

My career in K-12 is very established. I am sure teaching in K-12 sounds scary to some but, for me, after 20+ years, it’s not.

Or.

I could continue in K12 and pick up a few courses from a local university as an adjunct. Just to keep my professional saw “sharpened” and, I don’t know, try something different.

I will not give up my current K-12 because it is rather cushy. I make a good salary (over six figures), get excellent state employee insurance, I leave work at 3pm and don’t look back until the next day. Teaching high school level curricula at this point in my career is NOT difficult. I will not give up the state pension. And, overall, teaching in K-12 can be very rewarding. I don’t work in the summer and I get plentiful time off for all the federal holidays. I have learned (again, over 20+ years) to establish some boundaries.

I researched the three major universities in NJ to see which one pays more per credit (a course usually carries three credits). First place is Rutgers since it is a major research university, followed by Kean U, then Seton Hall (my Alma mater).

I am thinking that could teach language courses (Spanish), or teacher preparation program courses.

Rutgers applications for fall 2026 adjuncts are currently open. So I dusted off my CV and slowly started updating it.

Naturally, questions are arising.

I am worried of how it will look like…

Will I go to the university straight from work? Will there be late evening courses? Will I be bone-tired?. Plus, designing a course and grading?

What would happen when T is travelling for work?

Will I hire someone to get the kids from aftercare and make them dinner while I teach from 6 to 9pm?

Will I see my kids less?..

What would happen to the so-called work-life balance?

Is it even worth it?…

Sounds like a lot of hustling…

Is higher ed more flexible than K-12?…

I talked to a few K-12 colleagues who are adjuncting. One of them is a man with no kids, he loves it. I think he is doing it for “fun money”. Another one is a retired K-12 teacher that doesn’t really need the extra pay but adjuncts because she wants to keep her mind “active.” The third one is younger than me, has a terminal degree, and is grinding at three (!!) universities.

This is a lot and… I have to ask myself why. WHY am I looking at potentially taking on a course in higher education? Do I need a hobby? Maybe I want something different? A different type of setting? A new professional challenge? An opportunity to work with a different type of student?.. Some new colleagues?

Or. I wait till I retire from K-12 and start in higher education… By then the kids will be older, probably not want to spend much time with me, so I could pull off a few higher ed courses.


Updates

My dad is going into a stroke patient rehab center on April 14th!!!!!! I am so happy for my mom. She can finally get a break. She has been taking care of him for the past 11 months (his stroke was at the end of May). The rehab is state-funded and is all-inclusive. It’s far from a resort but they have professional nurses that work with stroke patients.

Weekly Recap

Right after our trip to South Carolina, we had a full week. I was working, the kids had their activities, and T was in Philly for work.

I was in my luteal phase. This month it was a rough luteal phase. I haven’t had a bad one in a while.

Usually, exercise helps A LOT. But this time I felt very out of sorts.

Speaking of exercise

I went to the YMCA on Monday, Friday and Saturday. Also my cycling class was today. Overall, four times, just as I planned.

I wanted to go swimming after work on Thursday as well. Had everything ready and in the car. Instead, I came home and just patted around the house, cleaned, caught up on some blog posts, then picked up the kids from after care around 5. That aligns directly with my goal to “give myself slack.” T was away and I felt I needed that time to just be, alone, in my house for a few hours.

Bed time crazies

This weekend has been good so far. Yesterday was busy but good kind of busy.

Saturday was like this:

Gym for me (weights+yoga)

Gymnastics for the kids

R’s friend came over, played

Called mom

Cleaned the upstairs

Lunch

Family swim (an empty pool!)

L’s friend came over, played

R’s friend from this morning came over again, played

Had dinner with L’s friend and her mom

The Pitt and DQ blizzards with husband after the kids went to bed

Bed

It was a busy Saturday but flowed nicely. My kids are at the ages where they do not need or want a lot of attention when their friends are over. Which is always welcome, since #timeforme.

Today is more of a relaxed day. I want some nature time and some creative time.


This post is a bear.

If you have any thoughts on K-12 vs higher education teaching or working full time and having a part time job in addition to your full time employment, please share. I’d be most grateful!


13 responses to “solo parenting week, career thoughts, exercise, mental health”

  1. Lisa’s Yarns Avatar

    I think it would be super hard to do this as long as T has a travel-heavy job. Phil is limited in what he can do with his career to some extent because of my travel. We could hire more help but that doesn’t appeal to us and he’s very challenged in his current role. I have offered to step back from travel so he could possibly consider something that would require travel but he is not interested in that at this point.

    I think it doesn’t hurt to look around and see what the options are. If you could do a hybrid schedule of part time K-12 and part time adjunct that might work but I don’t know if that is even possibly and I imagine you’d give up your amazing health care.

    I would think about talking to a therapist to sort through this and figure out what you are solving for.

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    1. Daria Avatar

      YES. ALL of what you wrote is so valid. Step #1 find a therapist that is a good fit. I was in therapy after having Rainn postpartum but my therapist was young and would not call me out on my bullshit.

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  2. mbmom11 Avatar
    mbmom11

    Higher Education is a mess right now- lots of small schools closing or pivoting to attract students. My small liberal arts school is sort of modifying liberal arts and going all in on engineering, business, and nursing. There is a ton of competition for jobs.

    So a lot would depend on what type of class they offer, if the money is worth the hassle, and the time commitment. ( Heck ,driving to Rutgers in rush hour to get to an evening class? That’ll take forever!) I think you need to think about why you want to try higher ed- adjuncts often get some of the worst courses with the least motivated students. Community college might be more intereting- often, the older students are a lot more serious and hard working.

    I’ve worked part time in academics for 30 yrs now- part time during the day so I can be home with my kids in the afternoon. And it’s harder once they hit junior high and a lot more activities and school sports hit. I was ready to quit a few years ago as my late elementary and hs school kids hit some major road blocks. It honestly was easier for me when they were little!

    (Full disclosure: I did teach at Rutgers-NB as a grad student and for two years as a full time adjunct. I had a good boss and liked my classes, but no one else really paid attention to me. No research or anything.)

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Thank you SO much for this reflection. A lot to think about for SURE. I have heard that once the kids hot Middle school/high school their needs actually increase… Definitely something to think about.
      I am fine with no one paying attention to me lol

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  3. Sophie Avatar

    I do have work on top of my full-time academic job but it is private tutoring work and so its very flexible and I do it on my own schedule. I also have a flexible day job, not a structured role like K-12 teaching. There’s no way I could handle both a full-time job and a structured part-time role as well, along with parenting and life. Idid think about that for a little while, as I am a registered psychologist and thought about doing some clinical work, just to keep my skills. But then I imagined myself having to work Saturdays, evenings, etc, and the sick feeling in my stomach let me know I actually didn’t want to do it. So maybe imagine yourself doing it and see how your gut feels? If you really want to do it either to test it out as a future career (which it doesn’t sound like you want), or because you have a passion for it, then that’s different as its almost a bit of a fun hobby. But if not, and its not about the money, then maybe its not worth it??

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Thank you, Sophie, for your perspective. It is good for me to see how hard it can be to have a full time role AND a part time job. I am the same way with Saturdays, evenings, etc…

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  4. Sam Avatar

    It sounds like a lot of teaching in higher ed appeals to you, but that it would cause some major shifts in life. What would it displace, and are you willing to make that trade off? I think your point about doing it after your retire from K-12 is a good one since it will require fewer trade-offs, but it does sound like an interesting opportunity.

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Not sure if I am willing to give up what I have..It sure does sound interesting… I think the perfect set up is after I retire from K-12, but it’s not for a while.

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  5. Stephany Avatar

    I love that a podcast episode sparked such an interesting internal debate within yourself – it shows that you’re interested in doing something more! That might be higher Ed, or maybe it’s some other challenge that wouldn’t cause such a big shift in your day-to-day life. I feel like it would be hard to do your K-12 job WITH an adjunct position, especially with young kids and your husband traveling frequently. But I think having these conversations with yourself – and the blog, so many great comments here! – is helpful. ❤

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  6. Coco Avatar

    What an interesting twist. I wonder the real reason you are considering it is that you are seeking more mental challenge? I believe that having a job that challenges us mentally and having stimulating debates with colleagues are important to keep us engaged. I personally wouldn’t take another job since it could risk rocking the boat while still raising two small kids. but thinking ways to still get the mental stimulation without commitment would be something to consider.

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  8. jennystancampiano Avatar
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    I can tell you don’t live in Florida. The way we treat and pay our K-12 teachers is a crime. I can’t believe anyone wants to do it. It’s maddening- is there anything MORE important than giving our kids a good education???

    Anyway… you already got some good food for thought from other commenters. It seems like this would be hard to do right now with younger kids and a husband who travels. On the other hand, obviously something inside you is itching for something more. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, so if you really want this there would be a way to work it out. Good luck!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Thank you, Jenny! There is definitely an itch, a desire for something more, something different, but at the same time, there is the stability and the responsibility to my family. Le sigh. One day I will figure it out- I’m leaning towards retiring from K-12 first, THEN jumping ship to higher ed- if I have any energy left.

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