This is a self-serving post for myself about next week of working full time, solo parenting, and finding time for hobbies.

Here is my 2026 annual list, with each intention numbered. Let’s see if I can align next week with some of them. The word for the year is “delight.”


  1. Take good care of my physical health.
  2. Take good care of my mental health.
  3. Take a road trip for spring break (leaning toward Outer Banks again).
  4. Take a roadtrip to Northern Italy: Milan, Venice, the Lake district, the Dolomites and possibly lake Bled in Slovenia (for now, looking at 20 days). Summer.
  5. Visit my family in Russia. Summer (solo).
  6. Take a camping trip with the kids. Summer.
  7. Read books.
  8. Write blog posts.
  9. Monthly dates with T.
  10. See friends more. (Think about what “more” means. Monthly, quarterly, seasonally(?)
  11. Get social (what does this mean?).
  12. Get cultured (theater+movies+concerts)
  13. Don’t be cheap.
  14. Celebrate and delight in the little things.
  15. Give myself slack, lots of slack, during solo parenting (and not only).

Tuesday, 01/20. 7:30-2:45 work. *pack gym bag

A heavy teaching day, 5 classes, be sure to have water and snacks.

3pm to 4pm time at the YMCA. Then, pick up R at 4, bring him to jiu jitsu, 4:30 to 5:15. Pick up L at 5:30, bring everyone home. 6 to 7:30 is dinner, baths, books, teeth, bed, for everyone but especially ME. (intentions 1, 2, 7 and 15 from above)

Wednesday, 01/21. 7:30-2:45 work. *no gym bag

A very light teaching day, only 3 classes. 4pm to 5pm piano for daughter. Read my novel or read blogs/leave some comments while she is in her lesson. Pick up R at 5:30, bring everyone home. 6pm to 7:30pm is dinner, baths, books, teeth, bed. (2, 7, 15).

Thursday, 01/22. 7:30-2:45 work. *need swim bag

An average day, 4 classes. Swim at the YMCA after work. Pick R up at 4, bring him to jiu jitsu. BJJ from 4:30 till 5:15PM. Get daughter from after care. Everyone home. From 6 to 7:30 is dinner, baths, books, teeth, bed, for everyone but especially ME. (1, 2, 7, 15).

Friday, 01/23. 7:30-2:45 work. *need gym bag

A very light day teaching day. 3 classes. YMCA after work. No kid activities. T home, he picks up the kids. Write Friday Five (1, 2, 7, 8, 15).

Next weekend I am seeing Drum Tao performance in Morristown (solo) so that is 12 and 14. Also, cycling classes, family swim, and skates (1, 2, 11, 14). Kids’ passport renewal is on Saturday, this is 4.

Wow, this is really granular… BUT, for now, it’s aligned with some of my annual intentions.

Other reminders to self: pack lunch and snacks for myself (kids eat school lunch most days), slow down intentionally, pack and repack the gym/swim bag, always have snacks and water.

Be delighted by the little things.


From camera roll this past weekend:

Birthday boy
We had a snow storm Saturday AND Sunday
Back yard ❤️❄️☃️
Slime lab!


12 responses to “granular planning”

  1. Sam Avatar

    Sounds like a full week of solo parenting, but I hope having planned ahead and thought about your intentions helps it to go as smoothly as possible. If all else fails, just remember to give yourself lots of slack. Love the picture of your son’s bday!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      That’s exactly why I did it. But, I still have to give myself slack if things don’t do as planned.

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  2. sarahjedd Avatar
    sarahjedd

    Love this! I have started writing a really detailed timeline for my mornings in my planner every night– it really helps me visualize my workflow

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Seriously, me too. Today was a LOT of teaching meanwhile tomorrow is a very light day, so I’ll be assessing their work.

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  3. Nicole MacPherson Avatar

    Hahaha “don’t be cheap” – my husband says this to me all the time!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      We are kindred spirits!

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  4. K @ TS Avatar

    Woof girl, go get it! You have a lot going on; thank goodness you have “light” days at work so that hopefully you can breathe sometimes! I love that you have gym and swim a lot; is this always the case or is it something new for this year? Good luck!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Oh it is NEW! I hate -ed exercise but now that I joined the ymca, I go there’re straight from work.

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  5. Lisa’s Yarns Avatar

    I love your granular plan! And thank goodness for aftercare so you can leave the kid w/out an activity there while the other kids is at Jujitsu/piano lessons. I have gotten to the point where I prefer nights with activities because being occupied > being home with our kids… So Paul has piano on Mondays, both boys have swimming on Wednesday, and Taco has OT on Fridays starting this week. The less time at home during these frigid months, the better.

    The snow is very pretty! We got a little bit of snow at the end of the week and then horrifically cold weather.

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    1. Daria Avatar

      You are not wrong. Although it’s a lot to bring R to jiu jitsu he is occupied and learning, while I read my book. Win!

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  6. J Avatar

    It has been so long for me, since I had a young child, I forget how precious that down time can feel. I’m glad that you are able to go to the Y so often, and that the kids’ schedules are working for you. All of this gets easier as they get older…oh wait, that depends on how involved they are in after school activities and what you can arrange with other parents. It can be a LOT.

    No matter what faze of life, a plan can help things to go more smoothly!

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  7. TGIF – Mom of Children Avatar

    […] and mental health. I followed the physical exercise routine that I laid out for myself here, last week. On Tuesday and Thursday it was the Y time. On Wednesday it was nothing due to L’s […]

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