Lately I’ve been noticing an influx of posts and podcasts in regards to the upcoming holiday season. Gift buying or not buying, hosting or not hosting, potlucks and office parties, school concerts, holiday travel, holiday decorating, etc.
That made me think; I’d better set some intentions NOW before the craziness starts.
In November we have my oldest daughter’s birthday + Thanksgiving. On the same weekend! And, we are doing the Friendsgiving where we are inviting our friends to spend the day with our family. T’s family is in Maine and my MIL doesn’t travel well. His nana is 91 and is in Mass., while my parents are in Russia.
December: Christmas and New Years. Just the four of us. Apart from my daughter flying to Maine with my husband for a few days, there is no other travel plans.
I asked ChatGPT to give me some reflection question to set my head on straight.
What traditions or memories stand out from last year — and why?
From last year I remember how we went to Lancaster County, PA and stayed on a working farm at the beginning of November. The kids had actual farm morning chores and the Amish culture was refreshing.
I also remember a Christmas play we went to with my son, albeit we both got sick after the performance.
Friendsgiving with neighbors and friends was lovely. L’s 7th birthday at our gymnastics place was okay. At work we had a Thanksgiving potluck where everyone chipped in with a dish.
I also remember how we decorated our tree, and took out other Christmas decor. I remember how it snowed before Christmas! It was such a nice surprise.
We hosted our second annual Christmas Eve with neighbors and close friends that was magical. My husband prepared the food. After Christmas my daughter and I had two nights in New York City as her birthday present. Below are a few snapshots from last year.
What drained my energy or caused unnecessary stress last year? Probably L’s birthday at the gymnastics place. The place just wasn’t a great choice. This year she will be eight, and I told her – your birthday party is at the house this year. She goes “okay.” She made some invites but we don’t have final headcount yet. I doubt it will be a big party.
I also think we may have overbought gifts for the kids last Christmas.
What boundaries do I need to set (with time, money, commitments, or people)?
This year we agreed on a budget (for the kids) $250 each. T already knows I don’t want anything except a gift card to Airbnb or Nordstroms.
What would make this season feel meaningful to me personally?
Overall I think I do a good job balancing the holiday activities and holiday rest.
I honestly just want to feel the joy, the spirit, or whatever you wanna call it. And that simply means taking a walk, listening to holiday music, or lighting a pine candle. Decorating our tree. Watching Elf. Watching Jim Carey’ Christmas Carol. Reading. Maybe- maybe-going to a play. Having hot chocolate with my students before sending them off on their winter break.
How do I want to feel during this holiday season (e.g., peaceful, connected, joyful, grounded)?
Definitely joyful, yet calm. I want to feel balanced with a hint of adventure.
How would you answer any or all of the above questions in regard to this holiday season?
This month I am participating in #NaBloPoMo2025. A running list of participants can be found on San’s NaBloPoMo page as well as more information about this lovely initiative on this NaBloPoMo page.
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