Post-piano ice cream

I need to let go of perfection.

Monday was amazing- the kids dressed themselves, L even made her own lunch, the house was picked up when we left for school, and I had everything ready at work. Plus only three classes to teach (we are on a rotate and drop schedule at my high school). And all that was with T being away on business. Aftercare started for my kids so I came home to a quiet house, had tea, planned and just rested. On Monday I was patient, I was funny, I impressed myself.

By Tuesday I was snapping. I had more classes to teach, I brought R to BJJ, and did manage to read my current book “a Gentleman in Moscow” by Amor Towles while he was wrestling. R and I had dinner at McDonald’s next door. Some chicken and French fries.

By Wednesday… overwhelm. And although I had only three classes to teach that day, there was more pressing stuff to do. After school, L had piano for one hour, so I brought her to her lesson. While she was at her lesson… I went for a run. I packed sports clothes and shoes and changed at the music school bathroom. I ran out of steam real fast because: I never run. Then I finished off the hour by reading my gentleman book. T made chicken that we turned into fajitas.

Today… Feeling better. BUT: have FIVE classes to teach, with each class being 56 minutes long. So, it’s a lot of teaching. Yet I have to remember- some of my classes are honors level classes with mature students who self-motivate and do their work efficiently, with minimal intervention from me. Yes, they are that good. Other classes need more active direction because…freshmen.

Today I also want to bring R to jiu jitsu class. T has dinner with his board of trustees so he is gonna be home late.

And tomorrow is FRIDAY!

This working parent thing is overrated. I need to sit down this weekend and figure out how to put the wheels back on my cart.

Pic on the front: after shower kid, so delicious!


18 responses to “The wheels fell off, need to put them back on”

  1. Elisabeth Avatar

    Oof. That is so much to juggle, Daria. And all of it requires a lot of energy.

    I hope that the weekend is a nice respite and you’re able to get caught up on rest and quiet ❤

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Hugs, Elisabeth!! And thank you. We have a busy weekend with mainly prep work for when Tony is away next week. Same to you, have a wonderful weekend!

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  2. Diane Avatar
    Diane

    Five classes sounds like A LOT to do in one day! Especially something as high energy as teaching. Do you have time to recharge a little between classes?

    I feel lucky that I am not working on a show right now – I think navigating the school year is hard enough when I’m only working 20 hrs a week. Working full time and juggling children and their needs and activities … is exhausting.

    I hope you have a restorative weekend!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Yes, there is definitely time to recharge- it goes kind of like this: class 1, break, class two, lunch, then three in a row with only a few minutes in between- the most challenging part of the day. But- whacha gonna do?..

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  3. Michelle G. Avatar

    I honestly don’t know how working parents do it all! I’m tired just thinking about it! I hope you have some time this weekend to relax and “fix your wheels!” ❤️

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Thank you, dear Michelle!! It’s a phase I’m sure. I’m tired nonetheless.

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  4. Common Household Mom Avatar

    I hope you have a restful weekend, as much as possible. I have great respect for teachers (have several in our family history), so I just want to say thank you for teaching.

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Thanks for stopping by my blog! And of course always grateful for the kind words!

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  5. Kari Avatar

    It’s a lot to juggle work and parenting. I hope you can carve out a little time this weekend just for yourself—to recharge and get the wheels back on. 😘💜

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    1. Daria Avatar

      I kiiiiiiind of put them on today- by doing laundry, reading and taking a walk. The weather is so delicious here- fall and a crisp 70s.

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      1. Kari Avatar

        Aww, I love that!

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  6. Lisa’s Yarns Avatar

    Being a working parent is hard. Solo parenting makes it extra extra hard. I hope you had a chance to recharge your battery this weekend! When T travels, maybe he can take the kids for a couple of hours on the weekend to give you an extra break? That’s what I try to do for Phil. I hope this is a better week!

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Hi friend! Yes, I get time to myself for sure- on Saturday mornings the kids have gymnastics and T takes them there. Sometime T takes them to our local HomeDepot after class for a building workshop for kids. Fun. So that’s like a good three hours. I also have time to myself whenever they are outside a lot or we force them outside lol, they have playdates and we don’t really need to supervise that much anymore.

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      1. Lisa’s Yarns Avatar

        I am glad you got some solid downtime! You need that for your mental health after an exhausting weekend of parenting!

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  7. Irena Avatar
    Irena

    Hi Daria,
    I’m really sorry to hear you’ve been feeling overwhelmed — that’s such a tough place to be. I hope you’ve had a little quiet time to reflect and think about what might be missing from your days or weeks that could help you feel more calm and clear-headed.

    I was in a similar spot a couple of weeks ago, and I realized my to-do list (and my brain!) were just way too full. So I started streamlining wherever I could to take some of the mental load off. One thing that helped was creating a simple dinner routine — Monday is pasta, Tuesday is tacos, Wednesday is breakfast-for-dinner, and so on. It’s one less thing to think about!

    We also upgraded our cleaners from monthly to bi-weekly, and wow — that’s been such a treat. Another big shift was carving out one thing each week just for me. For now, it’s my Tuesday night yoga class, and it’s been a game-changer.

    The last thing I’m still figuring out is driving for the kids’ activities. Between my two kids, I’m driving three nights a week, and my husband does two. That third night — Thursday — comes right after my busiest workday, and it’s a lot. I’m thinking about hiring a high schooler to help with just one night of driving, or maybe even rescheduling something. I’d rather have one long driving night than three separate ones where I have to leave the house again!

    Anyway, just wanted to share in case any of that might be helpful. You’re doing so much — I hope you can find a few ways to make things feel a little lighter. 💛

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    1. Daria Avatar

      Hi Irena,
      omg thanks for all the ideas. I do a lo of driving, too, and try to use the pockets of time to catch up on life/read a novel. BJJ is 45 minutes long, 2-3 times a week. Piano is one hour and is in Westfield, a beautiful town, with Trader Joe’s right next door.

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      1. Irena Avatar
        Irena

        That sounds like such a lovely rhythm to your week! I love how you’re making the most of your driving time—it’s such a smart way to stay connected to life and sneak in some reading!  

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      2. Daria Avatar

        Hi Irena, it sounds good but sometimes I feel like the margins are not enough… I need to keep working on it. Many factors are out of my control- my school’s schedule, the duties, my kids’ lessons… I am doing my best, most days.

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